I'm the kind of person that wants to know everything about everything.
I've stayed up far too late googling the most obscure things and falling down the Wikipedia link rabbit hole.
I know I'm not alone in this. I know I'm not the only person that takes pride in having an obscene amount of pointless facts and trivia stored away, waiting for the perfect conversation or Jeopardy question to put it to use.
But how many of us can say that we know ourselves that well?
How many of us take the time to really dig in deep to discover who we are? Have you set a day aside to research yourself (and I don't mean googling your name)?
It's tough, because there's no Wikipedia on your likes, dislikes, dreams, and desires. You can't run a search engine on your brain and receive a neatly packaged answer to "who am I?" in milliseconds.
Becoming a parent
They say when a baby is born, a mother is born, too. I'd add on, so is a father. Both parents lives have changed in a huge, huge way.
But you're still yourself.
The way that you react to everything and make decisions during your pregnancy, labor, and parenting experience is intrinsically linked to who you are as a person.
So then it follows that having a positive experience, and what "positive"means to you is also linked to you and knowing yourself.
Getting to know you.
Through our prenatal classes and birth plan consultations based on the Your Birth Experience model, Louisville Area Doulas leads you through a path of self discovery. It's our belief that knowing everything about labor and delivery and all of the evidence based information on how to make choices means nothing if you first don't know yourself.
We lead both parents through envisioning your ideal birth. What would the birth of your baby look like in the perfect world, without the restraints of reality?
We help both of you create a birth vision statement. Ultimately, how do you want your birth to make you feel?
We discuss the personality traits of the birthing parent and their partner. How can knowing your personality traits and communication styles help you connect and support one another not just through birth, but beyond?
We explore the unique ways that you make medical decisions. Does your doctor or midwife line up with your medical philosophy? How will that effect your experience?
Then, we help you put it all together to begin creating a birth plan that represents your desires and communicates them to your support team.
Changing Childbirth Education
Your Birth Experience isn't just another method of giving birth. In fact, we don't tell you how to give birth at all. There are plenty of other great childbirth education models that focus on principles and steps to have a specific kind of birth: Lamaze, Hypnobabies, Hypnobirthing, etc.
In contrast, Your Birth Experience is a tool. We focus on you, who you are, and what your desires are in order to piece together a picture of what an ideal birth looks like to you. It might be an all natural home birth. It might be a planned cesarean. Both options are perfectly okay.
Only after leading you through the process of getting to know yourself do we dive into the physical process of birth. That way, you can know with a degree of confidence what choices you'd like to take at each step that will lead your toward your ideal birth.
And when things don't go as planned, keeping your birth vision statement in mind can still make it possible for you to have a positive experience that you can look back on fondly: you can still feel the way that you want to feel when the train goes off the rails, and you'll be able to recognize when that starts to happen by knowing the process of birth.
When it comes down to it, your birth experience is ultimately all about you, your baby, your family, and your satisfaction. Isn't it worth taking the time to get to know yourself as you plan it out?